Why is it that we all know that there are different types of people all throughout the world but yet we still treat those that fall outside of “normal” as if somehow they’re wrong?
Ahh, elementary school. A time when friendships were pure and your mom still made your lunch. A place for learning, playing and teasing. Yup, that’s right. Kids at this age have no filters. They say whatever comes to mind. Whether it’s a kind compliment about your shoes or a cruel twist on your last name. Kids would say to me, “you’re so skinny”. I Never thought much of it because I was young and naive. Plus, this was elementary school. The place where it all begins.
I didn’t know if I was skinny or fat, tall or short. I only knew that I was 4 feet 11 inches, weighed 76 pounds and that my Irish twin sister, who was 11 months older than me, would beat me up whenever we’d fight.
Not much different here except I’d grown taller and my “twin” sister couldn’t beat me up anymore.
In high school I always liked to see myself as a not-quite-as-good-looking Brad Pitt or a Jean-Claude Van Damme without the cool accent but I think I was more like chicken little with better hair.
Even people at church would ask, “when are you going to gain some weight?” Or they’d say, “you should eat more!” One woman poked me In the ribs and said, “you need to get some meat on them bones”. I would get recipe ideas from them that they swore would do exactly that even though I didn’t cook.
Was I crushed? No. Did I want to do myself in? Absolutely not! Did it make me a little self conscious? Yes.
I know I’m going to get a ton of crap for this but I can eat whatever I want and not gain an ounce. The only fluctuations in my weight are from bowel movements (yuk). I’m 135 pounds of man and clothes (140 pounds in the winter-more clothes). I know that there are people out there that wish they could eat whatever they want and not gain weight but I wish that I could gain weight.
Just because someone isn’t over weight that doesn’t mean that everything is ok or that they’re not allowed to be insecure about their weight.
So, the next time you want to compliment your skinny friend think twice. You never know how it might impact them.
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